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Why online dating and dating apps are failing you…

What do you imagine the reality of you winning big in a gambling establishment is?

Not too likely right?

The casino strategizes to have all their games and entire experience play to their advantage (not yours).

Well casinos are very comparable to dating apps (yet only worse in almost every case)…

I want to introduce the 3 biggest issues that aren’t commonly talked about with online dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, okCupid, Match, Zoosk, Coffee Meets Bagel, etc.

First off:

A dating app doesn’t make a profit if they successfully match you with your ideal partner right away (or even at all).

Why is that? Well, you have to understand how dating apps stand to make a profit in the first place…

Here are the ways they make money:

  1. Providing advertising slots to companies… Meaning, they need their users (you) to be on their app as much as possible and for as long as possible. The more you’re on the app the more advertising space they can sell to companies.
  2. They charge you for a premium dating profile… Offering you unlimited super likes, “dating passport” options, rewind options, “see who likes you options”, profile “boosts” or “spotlights”, “preferred membership”, elite dating status, tinder platinum, gold, etc… All of which costs money… All of which they want you to make a habit out of buying.

So in either case… The dating apps DO NOT make money off of matching you with your ideal partner… Nope! That would be bad for business! What would be best for them is to keep you engaged and hopeful

Let me explain and provide the facts.

See it’s very comparable to a casino’s goal… They want you to feel like your big win is just around the corner…

So what would be best for the dating app, is to have you matching most frequently with what some of these companies may refer to as a “6” or a “6.5”, and occasionally matching with someone who is “out of your league” (however is also unlikely to ever respond to you based off of their app knowing their infrequent messaging or meet-up rate).

What’s a “6.5” you wonder?

It’s referring to a rating between 1 and 10 in attractiveness and compatibility. It’s good, but not great… It’s what is most likely to keep you hopeful but not necessarily resentful towards the dating app.

Why? Because that would keep you using it… Which is really good for business…

So what about the hotties who seem like a total catch who you match with once in a blue moon? I’d say it’s similar to a big banner above a nickel slot machine claiming how much money you could potentially make if you keep playing…

See the online dating app’s know:

  • How liberal versus conservative someone is in their swiping. Meaning they can match you with someone who gets hundreds of matches (and isn’t likely to actually message you) without any worry of either of you leaving the app.
  • The dating app also knows how frequently someone actually meets up with people they meet from the dating app. Not just by asking you if you’ve met someone on the app, but by tracking your phone and if it’s in the same region of another user (who you matched with) for an extended period of time. Meaning they can also make sure to match you with people who seem great, and who get you very excited (they might even message you and call you), however the app knows the likelihood of them meeting up with you is very low.

⬆️  Once again, resulting in you remaining single and a very hopeful customer. ⬆️

All of this is why you likely have had the experience of downloading a dating app, hoping for love and a great match. Then a couple of weeks or months later, you delete it in frustration… Just to then re-download it months later, or downloading a different app hoping for a completely different experience.

Point being… The dating apps are not there to help you, they are there to make a massive business and are all racing to become the app that monopolizes the dating app market.

If you question what I’m saying, just check the facts:

The common large casino is making $630,000 every single day. Tinder in 2017 stated that they bring in…

Drum roll, please…

$88,143 HOURLY!

So… $2,115,432 A DAY is what Tinder reported making!

Tinder and online dating apps on large are kicking the casino’s ass!

If our primary mission at Vimbasi Warrior would be to earn heaps loads of cash, they’d be getting our ass too. Lol!

So what do you do about it?

Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, okCupid, Match, Zoosk, Coffee Meets Bagel, etc. Doesn’t matter…

They are doing an outstanding job of making you a perpetually hopeful and repeat customer. Just like someone who goes to Vegas again and again, hopping from one casino or gambling game to another in hopes of striking it rich. All while the casino/dating app makes all of the money.

You know what gets people truly wealthy? Understanding business, starting businesses, understanding finances and making wise financial decisions, persistence, having a better product than your competition and a better way of marketing it, putting work into your business or career, etc. That will acquire wealth quickly and more reliably than gambling ever will for most people, and the same is absolutely true with dating:

If you want your dating life and confidence to be better… invest in yourself, your awareness of dating, sex, attraction, etc. Work on your social, emotional, and sexual intelligence. Invest in getting feedback about how you can improve in all aspects of dating.

Meaning not just trying to “get a date” but in investing in expanding everything from being a powerfully passionate and stable person as a single individual, to meeting and approaching women you’re attracted to in person, and all the way up and through subjects of relationships skills, sexuality and even how to handle breakups with total integrity.

⬆️ THAT is what a Vimbasi Warrior does. They focus on improving themselves on every aspect of their love life and personal life (including finances, business, emotional health, fitness, spirituality, leadership, etc). And that is why our members get results… Because they earn their results by doing the actual work and no longer trying to cut corners to find their ideal love life.

PS: Wonder how we learned about these dating app tactics? We had 2 Vimbasi Warrior Clients who worked for 2 of the largest dating apps. They informed us of how some of these top dating apps work. Those men joined Vimbasi Warrior because they knew a dating app wasn’t the place to find confidence and love (just like the owners of a casino don’t gamble with bad odds put against them in hopes to make money). Instead they build and experience that convinces you to lose your money for their benefit.

If you’re ready to stop wasting your time and efforts, and are ready to truly level up in your confidence and love life, click here to start talking with us about your goals and how specifically we can help you achieve them as quickly and as powerfully as possible. 

Now, Number 2. For why you’re not finding your ideal success through online dating apps:

If you’re a Vimbasi Warrior at heart… You’re most likely an ambitious person who is searching for an ambitious lover. You’re most likely interested in somebody who is socially fluid, accomplished, confident, fit, a little extroverted, passionate, has their life in order, etc. Right?

Well, best of luck finding that with online dating sites no matter how elite they make themselves out to be.

Of course it can happen. However, most of the women who fit that description aren’t spending all their time swiping on dating apps (or even being on them at all). Instead they will have a working life currently that keeps them occupied, and a well developed group of friends. And any attractive and accomplished woman with a good character will already have enough men to pick from for a random date, hookup, or even a decent relationship.

Those women don’t want “more dates” they desire top quality dates (which they don’t usually assume will come from online dating).

See, the people who are attracted most by dating apps (men and women included) are those who primarily are searching for dates because they struggle to get them outside of online dating. On top of that, most people attracted to online dating are more likely to be introverted and afraid to start social interactions. Which leads to the issue of many online dating users being less attractive in person (mainly due to social anxiety they haven’t dealt with).

Someone’s photo skills may be an 8+ however their social skills, self-awareness, and seductive ability might be a 4 at best…

And you’re probably looking for a woman who isn’t just physically attractive but also someone who is just as beautiful and profound when your eyes are closed. If that’s the type of woman you’re looking for, you definitely shouldn’t limit yourself to online dating, and should master the art of social confidence, and seductive integrity.

So in conclusion: Your ideal woman isn’t likely to be on a dating app just in the same way that your ideal lover isn’t likely to be found in a nightclub. Can it happen??? Yes. But do you want to bet the quality of your love life on a small chance?

So if you want to stop relying on hope and bad chances… Message us by clicking here to see if and how we can help in your scenario. (Warning: We cannot help you if you are looking to cut corners still, don’t value integrity, and are unstable in your life currently).

Now onto the third and MASSIVE reason why online dating apps aren’t working for you. The underlying truth:

Here’s the raw truth: even if online dating apps were actively trying to match you with your ideal mate, they still know one other key thing that they use in their marketing against you:

The marketing context of you just need to “meet the one” and then “you’ll live happily ever after”…

For most people, even if they do meet someone who is great, they still won’t be able to pull it off. It’s unlikely that sex, or relationship will result, and even if it does it likely won’t continue into a longterm scenario.

Why? Because people falsely buy into the narrative that “you just have to find your perfect person, and then everything will be happily ever after. That person will love you as you are with all of your imperfections and flaws.” Bullshit! Shitty seduction, lack of integrity, melancholy vibes towards life, instabilities, social mis-calibration, neediness, social anxiety, and lack of passion are things that no attractive women will overlook and no dating app will fix.

Assuming that getting the match will fix everything is like assuming that if you strike it rich with one slot machine, then your entire life will be set financially from that point forward (and keep in mind that very few strike it rich).

It’s a cheap mentality that many of us have been taught to buy into. No family member or friend wants to tell you that you aren’t that great of a catch when it comes to the opposite sex. On top of that, your friends and family don’t know how awkward you may be on a date with someone you have a deep attraction to, and they shouldn’t know what it’s like being with you in bed or in romance. ?  ?

So even if they were willing to be honest with you, they likely don’t know the full truth of how women of interest experience you.

Keep in mind: a million dollars isn’t going to make you rich for the rest of your life.

Getting ripped once isn’t going to keep you rich for the rest of your life.

Developing emotional stability and confidence at one point in life, isn’t going to keep you passionate and stably for the rest of your life.

And getting an ideal woman to say yes to date isn’t going to guarantee a relationship or happiness in your love life for all eternity. Just because friends and family say you’re a nice guy, doesn’t mean a woman will find you to be an attractive guy…

So if online dating apps don’t work well, then what does work?

In any area of your life where you want true and long lasting happiness/success… You must be willing to put in the work to earn it legitimately. You must be willing to stop cutting corners and start doing what few people are willing to do. You must be willing to turn self-development in that category as a lifestyle rather than a wish to suddenly have things fixed with magic or some app… Until you’re at that point of commitment… You’re just a fool wondering the casino playing slot machines in hopes of striking it rich. But rather than it being slot machines in a casino, it’s the nickel slot machines of love…

“So do online dating apps have their place and valid use?”

Sure they do.

  1. We have seen clients find their partner and relationships through a dating app. However, those clients now know that getting the date is just a tiny footnote in comparison to everything else. Most all of those clients found dates online prior joining a Vimbasi Warrior Seductive Integrity Program. However they weren’t seeing those dates go anywhere prior to Vimbasi Seductive Integrity. Only after they worked on their self-awareness, social skills, confidence, success, awareness of modern dating attraction, relationship skills, etc. did they find a quality partnership. That’s because a date is just an initial ingredient. It’s up to you to be skilled at turning that date into an ever expanding connection.
  2. Online dating apps are a great way for us to get a direct look into how Vimbasi men are initiating conversation with women. Any man can say “I’m great on a date” when in reality we see how awkward or boring his messages are. Having Vimbasi Warrior Seductive Integrity clients do a bit of online dating provides us with actual examples of where he may be going wrong in his conversations and leadership ( or lack of leadership) in dating.
  3. For people who travel a lot it can be useful. We’ve had clients who travel constantly. For those people who want to date casually and have dates set up in the city they’re headed to. It makes sense. However, most of our clients are interested in a long term relationship rather than multiple long-distance relationships.
  4. For people who live in a small town (we’re talking smaller than 10,000), online dating kind of becomes mandatory. In small towns like that, it’s easy to know everyone and to be surrounded by couples or elderly people. In such cases we will need men to use a dating app to expand their reach outside of their small town.
  5. It’s a great way to procrastinate and feel like a hotshot because you “matched with a hottie” (who you’re unlikely to ever meet up with). Vimbasi Warriors at heart are too ambitious to be falsely excited off of something so trivial and meaningless, but for some people… Matches that give them some shallow form of confidence is all their looking for.

With all that being said…

If you’re ready to level up! If you’re ready to not just improve in your life to get the ideal woman, but also to feel like you’ve become the ideal man of your ambitious dreams… Then send us a message for us to affirm whether you’re a fit for what we do, and so we can help realistically begin moving towards your goal. Click here to set up t up a free consultation.