This is going to hurt…
Let’s talk about two lies that we all have been fed that are holding back your love life, and causing struggle in your sense of confidence and self-growth…
These lies have been told to us from a young age by family and friends who care about us.
Some of them know that they are lying to you when they say these things. Some of them believe the lies themselves. And most of them are simply not facing the truths that are underneath the lies because facing them initially hurts…
But in both cases, you have a choice…
Continue to feed the lie, feel good in the present but suffer in the long run…
Or
Dig these lies out of your psyche as if it was a cancer strangling your vitality. This will hurt like hell in the beginning, but you will prosper and have a far better love life in the long run.
The first of the two lies that I’m referring to is what I call “Deserved Love”
RIPPING OFF THE BANDAID:
You don’t DESERVE love simply for being a “nice person” in the eyes of your friends and family…
Believing that you DESERVE love for being a nice guy, is the same as believing that you DESERVE wealth or 6-pack abs for simply being a “nice person”.
People who truly understand business, respect it, and invest in it for years deserve the wealth they earn.
People who truly understand fitness, have healthy eating habits, and make health a lifestyle can earn the 6-pack.
People who truly understand the opposite sex (not just on a platonic level), attraction, have self-awareness and leadership within relationships, and invest in growing these things regularly, earn an outstanding love life…
So many people will read this, and have anger and excuses come up…
“THIS IS BULLSHIT! I have tried over and over and have been great to women! IT’S WOMEN who don’t give me the chance…”
I get it… I used to think the same thing…
Looking back, that thought was the same as a business owner saying: “THIS IS BULLSHIT! I have tried over and over again to make this business work! IT’S PEOPLE who don’t give my business a chance!” (Rather than facing the truth that there are very likely holes in the business, the marketing, the management, the overall idea, and you just haven’t figured it out thus far).
I get it though. I wanted to believe my friends and family who said: “I was a great guy and sooner or later I would find that special someone”
In fact, I fed myself that white lie for some time. I wanted to believe that it wasn’t “my fault”. When in reality, it was…
I was the constant piece of the scenario… It wasn’t just one woman who wasn’t prioritizing me and finding me less attractive than their other options, it was TONS of women…
THE TRUTH WAS, I was a good guy who wasn’t good at all when it came to understanding women, sex, dating, social leadership, or even myself around those subjects.
The DEEPER truth was… The status quo was going to stay the same unless I was ready to level up BIG TIME!
Ripping off that bandaid didn’t just mean admitting that I needed to learn how to be good in those categories. It also meant I had to get feedback on how I was messing them up.
It meant I had to hear, and face, why I was unattractive, odd, weird, confusing, and frustrating. It meant facing even the biggest fear of most all men, that at times I might have come across as creepy or controlling, due to how fear and apprehension was influencing my neediness.
But the upside was that my love life started expanding RAPIDLY when I finally faced the hard truths.
I started running towards my bad feedback rather than tightly holding onto my white lies.
Allowing yourself to believe that your dating life is women’s faults, your ex’s fault, societies fault, online dating apps faults, etc. is just you relinquishing your power to change the status quo…
It’s the exact same as someone saying “I can’t get into good great shape physically because of my DNA or body type…” That’s bullshit. It may be harder for you than for some others but that doesn’t make your goal impossible to reach. (PS: I used to feed myself that lie too when I was 80lbs overweight years ago).
Look 2020 was shitty for most everyone!
Yet even in 2020, we’ve had men who have stood up, faced their lies, learned how to improve, and made the most of 2020. Many of them meeting their ideal partner, improving their relationships, and overall life.
Hell, some Vimbasi men were not only crushing it with one beautiful woman but were focused on threesomes during 2020.
Truth is, in 2020 we have seen FAR MORE Vimbasi Grads sexually exploring. This is because they’re either in a COVID quarantine relationship with a great woman who wants to stay entertained through sex, or they are dating women who are bored from COVID lockdowns…
Meaning they are dating women who are relieved to find a sexual partner they can trust and explore with sexually.
So with that being said… You can allow 2021 to be another thing to blame for the lack in your love life. Or, you this can be the time to finally level up BIG TIME…
Imagine coming out of all this COVID crap and women commonly saying with a smile on their face: “Wow! You have changed! You really made the best of lockdowns didn’t you!”
No more trying to improve while not being willing to face the uncomfortable truths.
No more believing the good natured but truly dangerous Disney Lie of how you “deserve love”.
No more holding on to 90% of the white lies, wishful thinking, excuses, unrealistic expectations/hopes, resentments, etc…
If you’re ready to do that, send me a direct message saying “I’m ready to rip off the bandaid”.
You can text me directly here: (512) 980-3203
Or you can go old school and email me: ander@vimbasiwarrior.com
Either way. When you message me “rip off the bandaid”, I will fill you in on lie number 2. Weeding out Lie #2 will be CRITICAL if you want a much healthier relationship.
I’ll personally connect with you when you text me. I’ll show you what an honest game plan looks like for you personally in your dating/love life and confidence.
A game plan that you can confidently work to see the results you desire.
In due time, you can be living with the love life that others are jealous of… Then when they resentfully say “you’re so lucky… I deserve love like yours too but women never give me the chance” you will deep down know the truth… You didn’t sit resentfully wishing for the love you thought you deserved. You truly earned it.
Keep in mind. Most of the time, it’s hard work paired with self-awareness and an intelligent game plan that separates the “lucky” from the “unlucky”.
Just text or email: “rip off the bandaid”. Together we’ll make 2021 a year of change rather than another year of struggle and regret.
Text me directly here (yes you will really reach me directly): (512) 980-3203
Or email me here: ander@vimbasiwarrior.com