The Do’s And Don’ts of Approaching Women – Raw Advice Directly From A Woman
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It’s surprising how most dating companies that advise men DO NOT have women backing them. It has seemed pretty simple to us here in Vimbasi. There’s a problem if you can’t show women what you are trying to implement into your dating life. There’s a problem if a dating company isn’t supported by the women that the men want to attract. Pretty simple right?
This post is from one of our supporting female fans that turned into a Vimbasi Female Facilitator (a woman that works directly with some of the men in our elite program). She felt inspired to speak raw and real on the subject of approaching women. For the men that are in the elite program look in the private FB group for her full 17-minute video version.
Approaching Women – The Inside Scoop from Dawn
Hey loves! After chatting with a few of you guys, the topic I found was the most asked about was The Approach. So, I’ve chatted with some female friends, and we’ve come up with this helpful list for those of you still working on approaching, and starting a conversation with women.
First things first – you need to get into the right mindset. The right mindset changes your energy internally, which projects externally and yeah, us chickitas pick up what you throw down. So take a deep breath in, and let it out. Then, come to terms with the fact that it doesn’t really matter. This may seem a little counter-intuitive, but trust me: it doesn’t matter. This is a different mindset than, “I don’t care,” however. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself, and don’t act like this is going to make or break your entire existence. So many of my friends said they hated it when a guy had too much confidence, or when they were way overly excited to be talking to her. It’s just a conversation. Breath in a nonchalant attitude, and exhale out any unnecessary pressure. Chill, bro.
Now when you see a woman, really take a look at her. What does her body language say? If she really wants to be approached, you should be able to pick up on the signs. A lot of my friends and I only really get ‘bitchy’ and ‘snarky’ if we’re not in a good mood and some guy comes up with a cheesy grin as if he’s going to make my day better. Spoiler alert: he never does. If she looks angry, or like she may murder someone who speaks to her, just let her be. Women I spoke to said they hated when a man came off as overly dominating and trying to “change her mind” when she was rushing while running errands or just having a rough day.
Another thing girls can just sense about men is when they are genuine. I cannot stress enough how important it is, to be honest, and be entirely who you are as a human when you approach a woman. Especially when it comes to why you’ve approached a woman. If this is confusing to you, ask yourself – why her? And whatever your answer is, try to feel like you’re able to straight up tell her. This means it’s going to have to be a whole heck of a lot better than “I’m desperate and you’re pretty so I want to put my dick inside of you and get attention from you because my self-esteem desperately needs it.” I’m not saying you should go up and say, “I think you’re cute and I want to get to know you, so that’s why I’m standing in front of you.” I mean, you could – this is your life – but it won’t be that effective. So many of my friends that I spoke said they loved talking with men that had a sincere interest in them. We notice when you actually listen to us because you want to get to know us. We can spot a fake smile from a mile away, boo boo.
So really take a look at her – what is it about her that draws you towards her? Why her out of all the other women around? Use that as a starting point, because it shows that you actually care. I’ve had so many amazing conversations with genuine and honest men about a variety of topics, with a variety of types of men. I can promise you that the ones who are just 100% themselves are a lot more effective at getting women to have a meaningful conversation.
Everybody is different – it’s one of the beautiful and fun things about the world. So be entirely who you are. This process may seem a bit overwhelming at times, and you may feel like you need to be someone completely different in order to find a meaningful relationship. I promise you that isn’t the case. If you love puns, and see a beautiful woman and have one come to mind – don’t you want someone who’s going to share the same sense of humor as you, and laugh at your jokes? If you’re more of an intellectual, roll with that! Being loved and accepted for who you truly are is the most beautiful kind of freedom you can find. I know it’s a cliché but, just be yourself.
Another key complaint women talk about all the time is when men don’t respect them. Overly dominating body language, calling a girl “baby” before you’ve earned that right, and especially physical touch before you’re allowed to are all huge no-nos. Think about how you would want to be approached by a random man – if he just walked up and grabbed your butt how would you feel? Oh, and spoiler alert: rubbing your penis on a girl’s butt on the dancefloor isn’t dancing, and if she lets you do that it’s just because she’s insecure and needs an ego boost. As soon another man says “free drinks” she’s gone, making a mental note to wash her outfit and roasting you in the group chat. How would you like it if a strange man doesn’t even say hi and just rubs his tinklebuddy on your fart zone? Exactly.
I hope these have helped you out, now get out there and master that approach! Lots of love, from the one and only, Dawn
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